I went to my first AA meeting today

Last week I made a promise to try out AA (Alcoholics Anonymous… for anyone who didn’t know the meaning behind the notorious acronym), and today I followed through. It was a lunchtime meeting near my office, not in a church basement, but a place callled Fellowship Hall, which is owned by Syracuse Intergroup which is […]

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This is why I don’t do AA

Check out this story from The Fix about alleged discrimination/blacklisting of secular groups within AA. According to the third tradition of 12-step group Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), “the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.” Theoretically, this would mean the group’s atheist and agnostic members, of which there are a growing number, are […]

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To the Groundhog

I wake up every day, right here, right in Punxsutawney, and it’s always February 2nd, and there’s nothing I can do about it. – Phil Connors (Bill Murray) Groundhog Day is one of my favorite movies, definitely in my top ten. It’s funny, it’s a bit philosophical, a bit sad and with a touch of […]

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Playing with fire

As most drinkers know, bourbon has a distinctive taste. It’s not like scotch or Canadian or Irish whiskey.  Even though I was never much of a bourbon drinker (I preferred the smokiness of scotch) I still remember how it tastes. Jim Beam was one of the only dark liquors my parents kept in the cabinet regularly […]

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Answers to unaskable questions

Yes, yes, I know, I know, “unaskable” isn’t a word. This title ought to be something along the lines of “Answers to questions you’re afraid to ask.” But I went with “unaskable.” This post is based on an exchange I had on Facebook with a friend regarding my last post. He began by writing: “I […]

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Looking back on my first mental health crisis

I don’t usually post trigger warnings on specific posts since I think it’s a fair expectation that a blog about mental health might contain information that might trigger a sensitivity to that topic, but since this post deals specifically with suicide, self-harm and a crisis, consider yourself specifically warned. I’ve wanted to write a longer-form […]

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Looking back on it all day after day

How many of you check your Facebook “On This Day” feature on a regular or even daily basis? I know I do. Sometimes there’s a fun memory. Mostly it’s mildly interesting to see what I was up to in years past. But occasionally I’m faced with a dive back into the bad old days. The bad […]

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500 days of… sobriety? Abstention? Let’s talk terms

Over the weekend I remarked on five hundred days without a drink on my personal Facebook page. It’s an accomplishment I feel pretty proud of, and it wouldn’t have happened without the support of a lot of people. At the same time, there was some disagreement on my use of the word “sober” to describe the […]

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How can you help someone struggling with alcohol?

  When I was a kid I didn’t have too many sports heroes since I was… well, let’s say I was more of an indoor kid. But one of the few sports heroes I did have was Donovan McNabb. He played quarterback at Syracuse from when I was eleven until I was fifteen. He was a great player- he […]

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Can marijuana help with anxiety issues? It helped mine. Let me explain…

So two weeks ago at my brother’s bachelor weekend there was, as one might expect, quite a bit of drinking going on. Cans of beer everywhere, rounds of Fireball shots- we even had wine drinkers and at least one person making Bloody Mary’s. It became pretty stressful for me- I’ve touched on the issues I’ve […]

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