I relapsed. Now what?

This might be the toughest post I’ve had to write yet. Well, I say had to… there’s no obligations that I’m subject to when it comes to this blog other than those I impose on myself. From the very beginning when I started writing it was because this is a way to share information on […]

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What happens when we all forget there’s a person there

This story in the Idaho Statesman on the public shaming and subsequent suicide of Klara Bowman hit me hard this morning. I was tearing up over my coffee reading about this young woman who faced a set of circumstances that were in many ways similar to my own struggle, but rather than given the opportunity […]

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Talking to someone when you don’t want to talk to anyone

One of the most significant challenges I faced and still struggle with is opening up about my depression. Yeah, maybe it seems silly for me to say that after almost two years of writing publicly about my depression and anxiety on this blog, in letters to the editor, of discussing it with my therapist, with […]

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The Road Ahead

So last month marked two years since my suicide attempt. Two years of avoiding alcohol, of taking medication, going to therapy and trying to remind myself that I’m good enough to keep sticking around. Some days are certainly easier than others and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t troubled or tempted or tested […]

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Do you know someone who may be depressed? Be their service light.

The other day the service light came on when I started my car, reminding me that I’m due for an oil change. I’ll be the first to admit that when it comes to this kind of thing my first instinct isn’t to run out to the instant oil change place or schedule a morning to […]

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Why I had to get off of my most recent prescription

I’ve been very open about the fact that I take medication to help me manage my mental health, and, I’ve been open with the struggles that can come with that. Medication is an important part of treating mental illness, but it is not a panacea and there are legitimate criticisms to be made about the […]

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What’s the right answer: Am I strong enough to stop/scale back therapy?

The New York Times has a series called Couch on psychotherapy and this morning’s article by Michael I. Bennett focused on the way both patients and their therapists handle winding down the frequency of treatment. It’s a good article and raises some good points. Most intriguing from my perspective was that sometimes both patient and therapist can come to […]

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What I love about sad Christmas songs

If you watched the Bill Murray Christmas special on Netflix something that you almost certainly noticed was that much of it was actually kind of sad, or at least bittersweet. In between some of the laughs and broader characters there was a through-line of loneliness, isolation and regret, carried off by Murray’s natural ability to […]

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Getting in front of seasonal affective disorder

When I checked the forecast for this weekend I saw that tonight there could be some light snow tonight where I live, which is not unusual for mid-November in Upstate New York. But it’s a good reminder that for many people the coming weeks and months means a struggle with a particular type of depression- seasonal […]

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Can I get back into mindfulness meditation?

I confess, this summer I’ve been slipping. I haven’t been following through on my mindfulness meditation practice and it’s starting to show. I find myself edgier, more irritable and anxious. My thoughts fly around my head and I have a hard time focusing and considering them. Once that happens it becomes very easy to fall […]

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